Expectations = 🤮
We all have expectations right? Most of us may not realise we’ve set expectations until something happens that wasn’t as planned or expected. This could be expectations we’ve created from childhood or society that we place on ourselves or others...
For example, I can become sad that my business was not a full-time booming gig when business is slow, but through lots of self-work I have learned (and continue to learn) to let go of those expectations and enjoy where I’m at.
In Buddhism they say suffering is caused by expectations and attachments. So the questions become: Do we have to attach ourselves to a certain outcome? Do we actually have to suffer if something doesn’t happen the way we want it to?
It's important to reflect on our suffering and ask ourselves challenging questions. Not doing so is like buying a plant and expecting it to grow on it's own. You'll probably make mistakes growing a plant the first time (it's not as simple as you think) and if you don't reflect on what's not working, how will it ever grow?
If this is something you struggle with I highly recommend you look into self-compassion exercises as well as expectations in Buddhism. Great news is, you have this information at your fingertips! Google, YouTube, TEDX, podcasts, etc. There’s a plethora of perspectives and guidance on moving through expectations 🌱
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