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Writer's pictureAshley Lopez Herbaut

Dreaming of A Better Life

I have a dream of a light-filled house, spacious.


Of waking up first, looking back at my bed and seeing my husband lying next to our precious baby. I smile.


Of starting my day with movement, pilates or a walk, it was never specific.


Of coming back to start the day, caring for my child while my husband gets ready for work. It feels warm and seems so bright.


Of seeing my husband leave for work.


Of coming to the with my laptop and writing for a short while. I'm not sure what I'm actually doing, all I know is that it feels good.


Of cooking dinner in the early afternoon with this child watching me, making a complete mess. It seems fun.


Of having dinner at the dinner table with my husband and bub, catching up on our days.

Of putting bub to bed, and the husband soon after.


Of going to the outdoor lounge, seemingly by myself, but soon accompanied by an adult golden retriever/labrador.


Of reflecting on my life and feeling immense gratitude for my life.

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This was what I visualised when I went through a guided visualisation during a business course. Business. There was next to no hint of any business being conducted. When I visualised my future, I saw love, connection, enjoyment and gratitude.


There is a part of me that truly believes this dream will happen exactly as I saw it, as so many of my visions do.


I say all of this to you because I realised something today. If you asked me to get more specific about what I visualised, I could tell you, but those parts aren't what is important. The circular mirror in our bathroom, the curtains in the bedroom, what my husband's wearing. When we focus on the specifics, on the material items, that's when we've lost the point of not only the visualisation but our existence. There is something, or many things, that our HEART and our SOUL truly yearn for, and I hate (just kidding, I LOVE) to break it you that it is not the type of car we own, it is not the business we're running, the relationship status or career we're climbing the ladder in, it is not where we live: it is almost always how we want to feel.


And when we realise that our dreams, our goals, our visualisations and desires are about how we want to feel, we realise that we can have those dreams, goals and desires right now. In fact, we realise that we do have those things right now, but we're too busy taking it for granted, too busy judging our circumstances and wanting them to look a certain way, and at the core, we are not giving our permission to be how we want to be until x, y and z are in order.


As my mentor once said to me "So who is holding you back?"


Is it the boss?

Your parent?

Society?

The economy?

Your finances?


No sweet thing, it is not.


Are you willing to let yourself truly experience life to its fullest?


To come back to what you truly desire at your core, and create more of that in your life right now, knowing that all it takes is to say Yes?


To decide in your mind: I'm creating my dream right here, right now. I don't need anything other than my personal choice, willingness to learn and dedication to myself.


And if you can't see the woods for the trees, if you can't understand what the true meaning of your desires are, contact me through e-mail or Instagram. I would love to help you see your truth <3


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